Ingrid is very independent. This is a trait I usually love in her. I love that she can sit and read books by herself. I love that she can play with her stuffed animals by herself. I love that I can usually take a shower and she'll keep herself entertained.
However, lately she has taken that independence and decided she doesn't have to listen to me. So...running away from me when I have a bag of garbage in one hand and the dog's leash in the other, or running away when it's time to get shoes on, or running away when it's time to take a bath. Or, touching things after I say please don't. Getting into the garbage and eating coffee grounds (you'd think that would be a one time deal, but alas, it happens every day.) Coloring on the walls or tables or chairs or books after I tell her please use the paper.
I know kids this age are testing their boundaries, and I never had a problem with this when I was a nanny. I knew these were the boundaries and the kids would not stray outside the lines. But with Ingrid I'm finding that the lines are blurry. Some days I just don't feel like fighting with her, so I chase her to put her in the tub or I chase her to get her shoes on or I tell her twice not to color on the walls instead of just once. Or I actually let her color on the walls because it washes off and I just don't feel like chasing her. That kid is fast!
Today we were going to take the dog for a walk and I had the garbage, so she needed to walk alongside me until we got to the dumpster. Usually she's pretty good at this but today she just was pushing all my buttons. She ran the opposite direction as soon as I told her we needed to go this way, when I chased after her and grabbed her and told her to go this way, she stopped altogether and wouldn't walk at all. It's like we just both have these personalities where we are going to get our own way. We are just fighting each other to see who will win. Battle of the wills and we both have VERY strong wills.
I don't mind letting her do what she will most of the time. But how do I get her to understand that sometimes she HAS to listen to mama?? Sometimes I need her cooperation, I need her to listen to me. But how do you make a 1 1/2 year old understand that?? So, deep breaths. Deep breaths. I love her independent spirit, I love her independent spirit. If we don't have to have a battle of the wills, don't.
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