Here's a question for any stay at home moms out there: How much help do you get from your partner? I know Brendan is a great help and is always willing to help, but I feel like his job is going to work and making the money and my job is everything else. And it's never ending.
My days start at 4am, when Otis wakes up for his first nursing of the day. Back to sleep until 6ish when Ingrid gets up. Coffee, breakfast, clean up the kitchen from Brendan's hasty rush out the door, clean up the living room from Brendan being up later than me and leaving mugs/blankets/laptops all over the place. I deal with Ingrid, then I deal with Otis, then I maybe deal with myself. Maybe. The laundry gets done, the groceries are purchased, the meals planned, the floors swept, the baby worn so he naps, the kids fed, the cat box cleaned, the bills payed. Then it's dinner, bedtime for Ingrid (which has recently become a knock down, drag out brawl every night...and can only be done by Mama) a brief pause when Otis is happy and will be content with Brendan, and then bedtime for Otis at 9pm, also done by Mama. And then I pass out.
I'm not complaining about my job, because I love it. I love being home, not having to bring the kids to daycare, being able to go for long walks to the park, staying in my pjs until 10am. But I could still use some help. Like I said, the mister is willing to help but doesn't do it on his own usually. I can ask for help and get it, but for example, I never come home to a fresh load of laundry all nicely folded, or a swept floor or cleaned kitchen. And his excuse is "I had both kids." It is SO frustrating.
He works hard, he has stress at his job and worries about providing for us, and I appreciate that. But I don't get paid and my job goes for way longer than 9 hours a day. And I work weekends and holidays. And Mama is tired! I just want help. I have thought about hiring someone to come in and clean once every two weeks or so--but that's ridiculous! We should be able to get things done around here as a team and I feel like I'm alone in everything house related. Like that's my job as a SAHM, and I should just deal with it.
Anyway, any tips on getting the help without it becoming a huge deal? Without fighting or arguing all the time? Much appreciated, thanks ladies!
2 weeks ago