I'm having a serious issue here, people. Otis is a cryer. He has to be held at all times, night included. At first I was okay with it, he was so small and new and I believe babies cry to communicate they need something, not just to cry. We never really let Ingrid cry much, I always always went in to get her or give her whatever she needed, I still do actually. And Brendan and I talked about it a lot, since he was more prone to let her cry, let her soothe herself. I always always said no way, I won't abandon my baby.
We just had that talk again about Otis. He is a clingy baby, for sure. I don't remember Ingrid ever being that needy. I wear Otis in the Ergo or sling 90% of the time, or put him in his bouncy chair if he's sleeping peacefully. But lately he falls asleep in my arms and when I set him down, he starts screaming. So I pick him up, he falls back asleep. It gets a little tiring. And it's not really practical for me to be holding him all the time. I have another kid to take care of, I have my own personal needs, like eating and going to the bathroom and showering. And frankly, I don't always want to wear or hold him. Wearing him is better than holding him, as I have both hands, but I still can't always do what I need to do, especially amidst all the unpacking we're doing right now.
So yesterday and today I have been going crazy because it starts at 4am. He cries, I pick him up, feed him, change the diaper, and he falls alseep. Until I lay him down, even right next to me in the bed. This goes on all day long. He cried in the car seat, he cried in Target, he cried when I made lunch, he cried when I was trying to do something for Ingrid. I'm trying to multitask, but come on! Give a mama a break, just be quiet for like two seconds while I get stuff done!
Just now I had him laying in his crib while I sewed, he was fine for awhile. I was really close to finishing something so I just let him cry for a bit while I got done. And what do you know? He fell fast asleep, he's still sleeping right now, he looks really peaceful and has been quiet for more than 15 minutes!! I hate the idea of letting him cry but it seemed to work.
HA! No it didn't, he's up again...What do I do?? How do you balance a needy kid and everything else???